SELF ESTEEM

Self Esteem: It simply means believing in yourself, believing in your own worth and abilities, having self respect.

Self esteem is a very important aspect in each and everyone’s life. Its very important we learn how to love our selves and believe in our self, because this will determine a lot of things in our lives, in our work places and even in our relationships.

Most of the people today have low self esteem issues because of what life has thrown to them, but its very important for us to overcome this things that life has thrown at us and base our life in the truth which is the word of God.

Most of the people who have low self esteem issues are those who have had a ; bad child hood where the people surrounding them were full of critics. From parents back at home to teachers in school. I remember growing up when I came home with average or bad grades my mother used to compare me to the neighbours kids, ” why are you not like so and so?” So part of my life I grew up comparing myself to people/ friends, wanting to be like them and if I couldn’t fit or achieve what they have achieved it was hard for me to interact with them or raise an opinion before them because I felt they were better than me.

Until I gave my life to God and based my life to the word of God which made me realize I’m unique in my own way, fearfully and wonderfully made, and everything created by God is good.

The other factors that can cause low self esteem is; financial problems and even going through stress like, relationship problems. etc.

Ways to overcome low self-esteem.

1. Ask God to restore it; Because God created us with it, but we allowed what life throw at us affect us and lower our self esteem.

2nd Timothy 1:7; For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power love and self control.

Mathew 11:28; If you are tired from carrying heavy burden come to me and I will give you rest.

2. Build your confidence by reading the word of God. Its good to have confidence in yourself, knowing that the Lord created you in your own uniques way, by this you are able to stop comparing yourself to others.

Philippians 4:13; I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.

Proverbs 31:25; she is clothed in strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future.

3. Forgive your past, as they say forgiveness is the only thing that sets us free. ” Forgive us our trespass as we forgive those who trespass against us”. Before we ask for forgiveness we are supposed to forgive. Not just others but also ourselves.

2nd Corinthians 5:17; anyone who belongs to Christ is a new person. The past is forgotten and everything is new.

4. Learn to say no. Your worth should not depend on peoples approval. The people who truly love you will love you anyways regardless of what you do for them.

According to psalms 62:5-6; only God gives inward peace and I depend on him. God alone is the almighty rock that keeps me safe and the fortress where I feel secure.

Love yourself , Believe in yourself.

Because besides God, yourself is the only thing you have.

Anger Management.

I’m so passionate about this topic because in touches me personally in a way; since I have been battling with anger issues for a long time.

Let me start by defining the word ANGER: Strong feeling of annoyance or displeasure.

It can also be defined as strong feeling of displeasure that can result to REVENGE or PUNISHMENT.

That is to say if we allow anger to control us most of the time we will find ourselves having thoughts of revenge or doing something terrible to ourselves or those who have hurt us.

That’s why its is very important to learn how to manage our anger.

ANGER MANAGEMENT: Its being able to control your anger and dealing with the situation in a productive way.

I remember when I was a teenager I used to have a bad temper to the point where I always had this push to do something huge(negative). Most of the time my mother was at the receiving end of things, I was always angry with her because of the way she treated me as a kid. I harboured so much unhealthy anger and blamed her for everything in my life, and we could never had a conversation without fights, throwing hurtful words to each other. And a lot of times I remember I used even to carry objects about to hit her, thank God it never got there.

I tried to reach to her just to pour my heart out to her on how I feel, but she always cut me off. That’s when I decided to turn to the word of God because I had literally tried everything to no avail, I went into fasting and praying , first to heal from all the hurt, then forgave myself first before I forgave anyone else. And there things started to change slowly, and right now my mom and I are besties for life, all glory to God.

Here are some of the ways that can help in managing anger.

  1. Always take a deep breath; this will help you calm down a little bit.
  2. If you are involved in a confrontation or argument and u feel u can’t take it, its better to walk away, yes, go take a walk after you calm down and thought the whole situation through you can have a conversation in a calm relaxed mind. Note that some people may find it rude when you walk away from them in a midst of a conversation. Therefore its always good to ask the other party to give you time.
  3. Do not let ur emotions control you, always try to look at the bigger picture.
  4. Before you handle any situation learn to seek guidance from God through prayer, you receive internal peace after talking to God therefore being able to handle conflicts in a calm manner. As we know the word of God is against allowing anger control us. In eph 4:26: Be angry but do not sin. Do not allow the sun go down on your wrath.. If anger is not managed well it will result to sin. James 1:19-20: everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger, because human anger does not produce the righteousness of God. Human anger causes chaos(sin). There are a lot of other verses in relation to this: prov 29:11; prov 15:1; prov 15:18; psalms 37:8-9.. Always put God first in each situations.